Monday, April 1, 2013

Good Things DO Come!

Kenny and I received some great news a few days ago that we are both excited to share. We would like you to keep in mind however, that this is a big deal for us to talk openly about it. We've both been hesitant to let anyone in on a few things going on in our life with anybody except for close family and friends. As time has gone on, we've discovered through our trial that we are definitely not alone in this. We feel like sharing could only create positive things to come. SO... a little background (okay a lot, sorry) before the NEWS.

Most people do not know that my hubby Kenny has a form of Muscular Dystrophy called Myotonic Dystrophy (MMD). In Kenny's case the disease didn't show itself really until he was about 25. In short, Myotonic Dystrophy is muscle wasting in the extremities. There are two types and thankfully Kenny has the less severe of the two. While some can have heart problems, lose their ability to walk, write, etc., Kenny has only lost his ability to grip anything with his hands. Looking at Kenny, you would have no idea that he even has any issues. We met with a specialist a few months ago and found out that every case is completely different so there is no way to tell what other things Kenny will experience in the future. As for now though, Kenny is healthy and strong, and as long as we have regular check-up's there's not much for us to worry about. However, another common problem we learned that comes from MMD is infertility. Kenny and I have struggled to get pregnant for the last 2 years. While Kenny does have a son, because he didn't have symptoms until he was in his early 20's and MMD is a progressive disease, infertility did not become an issue until after Kason was born. As a result we have found that because of MMD and other issues with me that our best option to have a baby together is through In-Vetro Fertilization (IVF). We also learned that because MMD is a genetic disease that there is a 50/50 chance it would be passed onto our children. IVF would ensure that it would not be passed on.

                                        
               Is he not the most handsome thing ever?!

If you know anything about IVF, it is ridiculously expensive. When we met with a fertility specialist here in Vegas we were quoted over $28,000. Obviously, we don't have that kind of money lying around and so have been putting the idea of kids on hold. It has been a really difficult two years for us. In ways that I can't really explain. We both want to have children together so badly. Kenny is such an amazing Dad to Kason and I KNOW that we have children waiting for us up there in Heaven. I am supposed to be a Mom. I’ve always felt that and wanted that so much. It just hasn't been on our time table I guess. Infertility is something that I would never wish on anyone. It is a struggle that no one can really understand unless you've been there. We have been so blessed with amazing family members though that have supported us through this hard time. We could not be more grateful for the support. And thank goodness we have each other...



 

           ...couldn't be more grateful that I have someone to help me laugh in between the tears.

About a month and a half ago I came across an organization on Facebook, Pound the Pavement for Parenthood. (PPP) They are an organization that is creating awareness and support for infertility. Infertility is something that people rarely talk about or share with others because of its sensitivity. At least that has been our case. PPP also sponsors couples that are having difficulties with infertility to assist them in relieving some of the financial burden that comes with both IVF and/or adoption. While looking around on their website I found that they were accepting applications for couples to sponsor in 2013 and so I applied. A few days later I got an email from, Jill who started the organization with her husband in 2010. Jill set up a phone interview with me and we talked for over 20 minutes about what Kenny and I had experienced over the last two years. It was such a relief to talk to someone who actually understood what Kenny and I were experiencing. To feel like the person on the other end of the conversation could actually relate the pain and frustrations we had experienced. For the last few weeks, we have been waiting anxiously to hear from PPP and on Thursday, we finally received the call.

Kenny and I have been selected to be 1 of 5 families that PPP will be sponsoring in 2013! On September 14, 2013 they will be holding a 5K race in St. George Utah with another couple to raise awareness and funds to go towards infertility treatments/adoption! I can't even explain to you what a blessing this is for Kenny and I! We both had kind of given up and this blessing has just proven to us that Heavenly Father hears prayers and answers them.

Over the next few months we will be posting more of our story and the plans for the race in September. We hope you'll join us on our journey this next year. This is something that we found no one ever wants to talk about... and we understand why...We've been there for the last two years. But I really hope that through us sharing our story we will be able to create support for others going through similar trials. I know what relief we felt when we relalized we were not alone in this. Our true desire is to create the same feeling for others as well!

 

24 comments:

  1. Oh Emily! My heart is so happy for you! We have been struggling through secondary infertility the last 2 years and it has been a battle. (We conceived our first daughter naturally and by accident) I did 5 rounds of clomid last year, and numerous tests. We discovered the problem is mine, and hope to resume treatments this fall, but boy, the struggle is so difficult and so real. I'm so glad you shared your story. I wrote a bit of my feelings on my blog here - http://mindsbodiessouls.blogspot.com I would love to be able to come support you in September! I'm just a few hours drive from St. George and I can't think of a better cause to support. I can't wait to hear more about your journey!

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    1. Holly! Thank you SO much! It has seriously been the hardest battle I think we've ever faced. I had no idea you were going through the same thing! My heart aches for you. Hopefully we can support each other through all of this! I woudl LOVE if you came in September so we can raise some awareness and support together!

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  2. Emily! What a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing. I'm so glad you did. It gives me hope! I hope it all works out for you two. I could not think of a better, more deserving couple. Keep us posted!

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  3. Oh sweet girl, I'm in tears on my end of the computer. There isn't another person I know of more deserving of this blessing! Thank you so much for sharing, and I will keep you in my prayers! Sending so much love your way!!!

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    1. Aw Noelle, just reading that you left a comment immediately sent me to tears! Thank you so much! I read your blog weekly and can't think of a more inspiring Mom. You're such an example to me!

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  4. I know we barely know each other, but you are such an amazing woman! This made me cry! Very touching, thank you for sharing with us! You and Kenny are in my prayers for sure! I am so sorry you have to go thru this, but I know Heavenly Father knows exactly what you need and because of your faith I believe you'll be blessed. Good luck, and keep us posted! :)

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    1. Thanks so much Kylee! You have no idea how much the support and prayers mean to us! We will for sure keep you updated!

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  5. Oh man. My heart goes out to you. We've struggled a bit with this too, in a different way, and it totally sucks! There is probably no feeling worse than wanting to expand your family, but unable to. I hope and pray that this will work for you! Hopefully we will be able to make it to the race in St. George!

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    1. Staci thank you so much! You and Zach have been in our prayers ever since I've read your blog post a few months back! You deserve so much to be parents! You're such an amazing couple!

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  6. I heart both of you!! It seems like so many are having a harder time right now, when so many have a desire and ability to. I know there must be a plan for all!! I would love to participate. Let me know more about that run! Amber

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    1. Thanks Amber! I will let you know once we get more details and get the registration page up! It has amazed Kenny and I to see how many people are going through similar things. Hopefully this will allow them to see there is a support group out there for them!

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  7. That is great news! I had no idea you have been dealing with this. I hope the rest of your journey goes smoothly. You will make a wonderful mother and you are a deserving couple. Please keep us posted!

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    1. Thanks Tiersha! We will for sure! You're family is so cute! I hope you guys are doing great!

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  8. Emily and Kenny,
    I am from Colombia, far away to St George but I will pray for you Guys, I know our Father in Heaven know your hearts and He will bless you both... Thank you for your example!!
    Sandra Milena Hernández

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    1. Thanks Sandra! We appreciate the support and prayers! :)

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  9. Sweet Sista, HOORAY!! I am so happy for you two Ü Now that you have opened your story up you will be AMAZED for the rest of your life at how many will share their experiences with you, and look to you for guidance! You and Kenny rock, squeeze you soon! xoxo

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  10. Hey do you know when registration starts?! We have a lot of family and friend sin St George who are really interested in signing up!

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    1. Paige! We are meeting with the coordinater Jill in a few weeks to get things organized.As soon as it is up I'll be sure to let you know! Thank you so much!

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  11. Hello!!! I got chills reading this post. I'm on the PPP board, and I am all the way down in Texas so I don't get to be a part of all the fun stuff like letting the couples know they are going to be sponsored. I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU! I just got your page up on the PPP website. Can't wait to get this ball rolling! You're in for one amazing ride with one miracle after another. Congratulations!!! [Our PPP miracles just turned a year. Twin boys. :) hoo rah! I blog over at http://callmekristin09.blogspot.com if you'd like to see our story. :)]

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    1. Kristin! :) Thank you SO much! We are so excited! You're boys are ADORABLE and reading through your blog gets me that much more excited to get this going! :) It is amazing how the Lord hand has worked in all of this! Reading your story just confirms that he listens and makes things happen when we can't ourselves! Can't wait!

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  12. I could not be more excited to work with you guys. You're great, Emily. I had such a good feeling talking to you over the phone. I know you are one of the couples we are supposed to sponsor this year. This is right. This is exciting, and I can't wait to get planning! Let's get that baby here! :)

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    1. Thank you Jill! I've said this a million times already, but we feel so blessed to be a couple that was chosen. You really were an answer to our prayers! Can't wait to get going on this!

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